Today was the most frustrating day of my six years of mother hood.
I picked the boys up from school and I had to go to Costco to get milk and usually Liam is awful in the stores, he pulls things off the shelves and cries everytime I won't let him have something. Typical 3 year old behavior right?
We got into Costco and everything was going pretty smoothly, all three kids were really good. Which is very unusual for me. I should have known it wouldn't last. So we get to the frozen food section and Eoin sees these bagel pizza bites and asks me if I will buy them. I tell him "No Eoin I brought those before and you didn't like them". Eoin says "I like them now mom". Again I said no and he started doing his usual fighting with me. PLEASE MOMMY PLEASE PLEASE OVER AND OVER AGAIN. I got down to his level and nicely told him the reasons I'm not buying them. All of a sudden he starts crying really loud and he threw himself down in the middle of the isle and kicked and screamed. I wanted to crawl into a hole and die of embarassment you should have seen the seen the sceen he was making. Everyone was starring at me and I felt like the worst mother in the world because I lost it and just started screaming as loud as he was. I grounded him from tv and video games for 5 days. I am at a loss I don't know what to do. You can't spank, yell back etc . How do I remain calm when my child is screaming at me so loud everyone is stareing at me and whispering. I would love to learn a method of behavior control that actually works, I tried timeouts, taking favorite things away, and bribery.
I'm going to put the kids to bed now and seriously do some thinking and stragagising because obviously what i'm doing isn't working.
HEEEEELP MEEEE PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2 comments:
Sounds like a Terrible Awful No Good Very Bad Day!
No advise to give you. Except try and think of all of the times that you do everything right and it works out fine and your children respond. Because they do. And there are times that we all want to throw ourselves on the ground and scream- only he can still do so at this point without fear of embarassment.
They say the best thing is to stay calm and ignore the behavior and immediately take him home. Not sure how to do that. Sounds like you needed a hand today and were being tested.
Oh, Diane. I really don't know what to say. What style works good for one child may not work for another. Hope things get better.
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